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"That's the girl! It was yesterday. She was posing and feeling like she was too fine in her 'pencil heeled' shoes. When she saw her friends, instead just calling out to them like a normal person, she started screaming so that everyone would look her way. Then as she ran towards them in that silly girlie way, she tripped and fell! Oh you should have been there. It was the mother of all falls. Ah! It was the 'BADDEST' thing. She could not even move.they had to come pick her up.

Some people just ignored her, some felt sorry for her, some watched keen eyed, and others laughed their heads off. It was better than the home videos. So, what do you say?"
I'd say thankyou very much for the update (eventhough no one asked you for it). You tell it so graphically. Such vivid, visual imagery with the infusion of so much relish. I am impressed. Now tell me, which group of spectators did you belong?
I'd love an analysis, so lets ANALYSE. Shall we?
First - the girl.
Yes, Miss Spike heels. What was she after ? Attention?
Why? ...Because she needed it. What brings about this need?

The answer to that would depend on whose attention she was seeking. It could be one person in particular, a clique, or just every living soul. She could have been seeking acceptance, fame, or is just plain insecure.
Next, the audience;
Group 1; They ignored her.
" I have other things on my mind. Please. Let her waste her time." They believe special attention is for special people only, and 'when she has fallen down enough times, she'll give up (like we did) trying to be what she's not. Whatever is destined to be would be. She would soon learn (like we did). Then she?d adjust to ( and concern herself with) the drudge of life ? like we do.'
I could cry for these ones.

Group 2; They felt sorry for her, because they understood.
' That some just need to have attention ' They may not know why or,
'They admit they also seek attention sometimes' They may or may not know why.
Besides, anyone can trip and fall. Even the glamorous actress, Eva Langoria landed on her face, right in front of all the cameras once.
These ones are thinking, ' Oh! Poor girl. Hope she handles it well, like Eva.' Eva stood up laughed at herself, and shrugged it off. she still laughes about it, you know.

Group 3; They watched keen eyed. These are the learners. 'So she tried to 'shine' and fell! ... eh? So how would she pull it off now? Lets see how she going to save face.'

If Miss Heels ends up limping home with a sprained ankle. They would learn never to try, because you could fall. Regardless of how different their circumstances are they simply would not try. But if Danzel Washington pulls up in a Navigator jeep, picks up Miss Heels (bridegroom style), gingerly places her in the back seat, and cruises away. Then they would try it in future.
This group won't take the initiative. No! They wait for you to fly, or fall first.
With Danzel in the scene, Group 1 would now pay attention. ' So she belonged to the ?priviledged class? afterall. The fall was a gimick, nice touch.'
Group 2; 'Oh! I am glad for her. What a 'glam' way to save face. Woooo! that was close!'
Group 4 would simply stop laughing, and look away embarrassed. They?ve have lost their 'shine' now. But why was it so funny to them. Why laugh so hard with all that scorn?
This group would snigger, geer, and gloat at every opportunity. They seem to be in their element when someone else is going down. Negative, nasty remarks are their trademarks.

But, although group 4 folks seem to think they are strong and powerful, the opposite is usually true. Phillip Hodson, of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, says: "More often it's carried out by people who may appear superior but are actually extremely insecure and have a sense of inferiority. " The victims on the other hand aren't weak. Group 4 folks often target people because they're jealous. Believe it.
They aren't at all confident and are suspicious of people who are different from them so gang up and snigger. They attack as a defence.
This group exists in every society and their activities, such as backbiting, jeering,undermining and snide comments, don't seem serious initially but over time they wear the victim down, making them lose confidence. Unless ofcourse the victim KNOWS their true issue - Little (or NO) self worth.

Would you ; Pick faults in what someone(anyone) does or say. Provoke arguments and rifts. Undermine someone, and even distort people's perception of a person to make them think the person is unstable and untrustworthy.
Make someone feel guilty or, inadequate at every opportunity. Could you even be nasty when you are alone with this person, but charming to them in front of other people. These behaviors are not acceptable or excusable, and there is usually an underlying problem causing it; INSECURITY.
No matter how superior these group of people seem, they are actually very insecure and feel very weak.
Is this you?

These four groups are not exclusive ofcourse.
We also have the opportunists who would seize such moments to get attention for themselves. You know what I mean - like rush over to the girl and gush over her. Be nice, and sweet, make a show of bending over to help her up (and of course show off those electrifying legs in that viciously short denim mini skirt).
Can I get a witness?

Also among Group 2, there some who would feel sorry for the girl but shy away, not wanting to be associated with that kind of a mess. Their hard earned 'fly girl' reputation is to be guarded with all seriousness. While others in the same group would speak out their sympathy, and others even offer their help. Hey, there is a group for everyone.
However,this news broadcast limits our analysis to these four groups, and judging from the enthusiasm with which you relayed your 'CNN report', you seem closer to the fouth group than any other.
So did you laugh?

Does bullying, and riddicling give you a sense of POWER?
Is this your territory - your home? It's time to relocate.
Are those Group 4 vipers your brethren?
Is their zone where you live?

Sweetheart, leave the slums. Identify yourself. Be honest about your status, and change it.
Rise from it.
Even if you already live in a cosy apartment, there is always something more?get a mansion. Step up!

Let there be remarks you don't make - not because the person doesn't deserve it. But because the words are just not good enough to come out of your mouth. You get out the gutter, and get the gutter out of you - out of your mouth. It's called 'ELEVATION'. You don't say stuff because others are saying it. You don't laugh because others are laughing. No!
You are bigger than that.You rule your mouth.
If you didn't think it was funny, then you have already upgraded beyond the small league. Then you are top class - high quality. If you thought it was funny, then you are not. However, this high class is only one decision away.
But first, you must honestly answer this question.
Did you laugh?